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Aging... And seeing it on our faces... Is it a part of life?

This past September I turned fifty and while it’s been a relatively good year for me, these days when I glance in the mirror I see someone looking back that I just don’t recognize anymore.

My reflection is telling me that I am getting older. I remember when I was in my twenties, seeing women over forty and thinking it must be awful to age.  I possessed a definite smugness combined with attitude, believing, in my state of youthful denial that somehow I was immune to such a fate and that I would remain forever young.  And while I understand that aging is better than the alternative, the idea of going through the process gracefully without a little nip and tuck is becoming increasingly difficult to fathom.

And I know that I am not alone in this thought.  After all cosmetic surgery has inundated television, and it seems that everyone and their mother is running to the surgeon for a little renovation or at the very least a little botox. The media is telling us that thinness and youth are things to cling on to and that getting older with all the sags, wrinkles and creases is purely unacceptable.  Aging and seeing it on our faces is simply “The kiss of death”.   The question then remains, “Is it superficial to succumb to the pressure to look as young as we feel, and is it something we must do”?

I have trouble with the idea of a male dominated profession such as cosmetic surgery, driven by a male dominated media, telling me that having “work done” is as simple as having a hair cut.  And, if the truth be told, a big motivator for me and other like minded women would be the thought that we want to remain sexually relevant to these very same men who are dictating the age:attractiveness ratio. Given that I do understand how fortunate I am to be living in a time where such things are even debated, and where money could be better well spent, you would think my question would be clearly answered. It is not!

I still want to look eternally youthful.  Maybe that’s because the answer lies deeper within, beyond the surface of the skin and has nothing to do with outward appearance. Perhaps we as a society should take a closer look and question the present day trend towards rejuvenation via the scalpel. More often than not when people undergo cosmetic surgical procedures, what they are really trying to change is how they feel about themselves on the inside. It is a difficult task to inwardly change a perception of who we are and a self- image that is based on the negative past experiences that we all endure. It’s easier, or so we think to “fix” our problems from the outside, in. This, combined with the fact, that we now live in a youth obsessed culture where seniors for the most part are disregarded, it’s no wonder that aging is a hard thing to look at, not only in our reflection, but also in how we feel about getting older.

The mirror only tells us the truth! That if we are lucky we will get old, that we will probably be unable to do the things that we now take for granted, freedoms will slowly slip away and that eventually we will cease to exist altogether. Maybe it’s these thoughts that society really wants removed and not the sagging skin and wrinkles.

Unfortunately for us, no surgeon can cut away these harsh realities of life, no matter how skilled he is or how much we pay him!


©Lori Weisbrod


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